Many couples in Michigan and elsewhere who are choosing to end their marriages have a lot of decisions to make about how to make their family life work when all is said and done. When a couple has children, it can be difficult to decide what living situation would be best for them in the long run. Many people are turning to nesting, but does this type of living arrangement really work long term? Some family law experts feel it may not.
What is nesting? Also referred to as birdnesting, this is where the children remain in the marital home and the parents come and go based on their custody schedule. Why consider this? It keeps children in a familiar environment and offers less disruption to their lives.
Experts do agree that there is some benefit to nesting, but it is not necessarily a long-term solution. It is difficult for each parent to maintain, as it can make it harder for them to move on in their own personal lives. Some children may also experience anxiety and confusion not only about the uncertainty of the situation but about whether their parents will get back together. If a couple opts for this type of living situation, therapists recommend only doing it for three to six months — just enough time for children to adjust to the idea of their parents moving on from their marriage.
Michigan residents who are interested in the nesting approach for their post-divorce living arrangements can make it work if they want to. Some may be able to do it long term, while others may find it only a short-term solution. How it works for every family will be different. An experienced family law attorney can assist those interested in nesting draw up plans and custody arrangements that fit their needs.
