As a parent who is going through a divorce, you want to do what is best for your children. It can be difficult to know what to do to make them more comfortable as you work on parenting plans and custody arrangements, but it’s important that you do.
Depending on the ages of your children, there may be different concerns to address. Here are a few things to consider based on your children’s ages.
Infants and toddlers
Infants and toddlers are the first age groups to think about. These children are young enough that they need around-the-clock care and support. They may still be breastfeeding and need to be with their mothers more regularly as a result. If you have an infant or toddler, consider setting up custody plans with daily visitation for their dad, so that he can see them regularly while making sure they have access to their needs from their mother.
Once your children are old enough to go to elementary school, you’ll have a little bit more flexibility in your custody schedule. You should still consider setting up a plan that gives both parents time with the children often. Children between the ages of around 5 and 10 do benefit from seeing their parents daily or every other day so that they can strengthen their relationship bonds.
Once your children reach their teen years, they’re going to be more independent and focused on doing their own thing. At the same time, it’s typical for teens to need support from their parents and to want their parents in their lives. Your teen may suggest living with the parent of the same gender during puberty, which may help them better adapt to changes as they grow.
Every child is different, so it’s up to you and your ex-spouse to determine what kind of parenting plan and custody schedule would be best for them. As your children get older, consider talking to them to get their input as well. With good communication, you may be able to develop a custody schedule and parenting plan that is beneficial for everyone involved.