Your marriage is not what it once was. You and your spouse no longer look at each other or interact with each other as you did in the beginning. Now, one or both of you are ready to file for divorce and move on. You are afraid, though, that the dissolution process is going to get a little messy. The truth is, yes, some Michiganders will experience messy, difficult divorces — particularly if they fail to practice self-control through it all.

At the end of the day, the only person you can control is yourself during the dissolution process. Your spouse may do some things that seem far out there or with the intent to hurt you. How you act and react says a lot about you and can hurt or help your case.

Believe it or not, a judge is not going to look kindly on the spouse who is saying one thing in court and then posting the opposite on social media; or the spouse who lies in court in an effort to make the other party look bad in order to secure a better dissolution settlement; or the spouse who uses the children as leverage to get what he or she wants — among other things. Those who are being honest and are seeking fair divorce terms will be viewed in a better light. When things get tough during the dissolution process, and they certainly can, you can help yourself and your case by leaving the fighting up to legal counsel, coming to court prepared and taking care of yourself along the way.

Will your divorce be a messy one? It may or may not be as every dissolution case filed in the state of Michigan comes with its own set of problems. Whether it is or is not, just remember that putting your best foot forward can go a long way in getting you a settlement with which you are satisfied. To learn how legal counsel can assist you through your divorce, whether it is messy or amicable, please take a moment and visit our firm’s website.